Christmas Time

It's that time of year, depression is in high gear. Suicide rates are growing as the happy holiday nears. They say that the reason suicide rates go higher this time of year is due to people feeling guilt and dread over the merry gift-giving that this corporate pressured holiday is all about. Can't say that I disagree with it at all.

Gift giving is pretty tough. Finding the perfect gift is difficult regardless of whom you are shopping for. Not only is finding the perfect gift tough, but in this saddened economy finding gifts that are reasonable and affordable that will "do the trick" is tough as well. Let's face it, this economy has created so many financial pressures on everyone, even the happily employed. In this uncertain time I'm sure even Santa is sweating his job security.

It occurred to me today while browsing the internet (doing some holiday shopping on my time) that I wouldn't mind affording a guilt-creating gift for a certain someone I know. Let's just say that causing me pain isn't something I easily forget. I can't help but think that the look on this person's face would be priceless upon opening this gift from me. I wouldn't even need to make it known that it was from me to get the point across.

Bypassing that, I have no intentions of committing suicide. Being broke is something I've gotten used to. Having people dislike me is something that I'm starting to get used to as well, far be it from me to actually understand why I am disliked, but that doesn't mean it's not uncommon in my life thus far. What I've done to cause dislike towards me is beyond me, honestly.

My Christmas plans so far are spending time with my boyfriend and his family (due to my family being so far away) and job hunting for something a little more rewarding for my future. Plus putting things in my mind in a certain less chaotic order to help me figure out where I'm headed in the near future would be nice. We'll see how all this comes out in the long run. I am definitely hoping for a Happy New Year with a brand new start.

The death syndrome

Does anyone else notice that when someone dies, people start to re-evaluate their own lives? One person passes away (for example) from a serious infection at the ripe young age of 40ish, and suddenly everyone close to the deceased starts thinking "I knew them, the same thing could probably happen to me". (Insert freaking out here.)

Shouldn't we people, try our hardest to maintain a level of good health regardless of circumstances? Shouldn't we try to not end up at a friend or relatives funeral with regrets of how we've lived our lives up to that very moment?

Which suddenly reminds me of the arguments I have regarding religion. I'm very disappointed in the "suddenly Christians" who wait until the very last moments on their figurative deathbeds to repent and ask for forgiveness. Why not follow the clear path to the place you'd like to be all along? Why wait?

Is our nation plagued by procrastination so badly that we can't even think about where we want to end up in the afterlife before we are one toe in?

My rant, in a nutshell is this, think. Think, plan and then act, and do so before something tragic has to jolt you into living. Don't forget to think that anything is possible.

Debut Post - The Bad Boy

Why is it that women are attracted to the "bad boy" types? This question has plagued both sides of the sexes for years. The good guy is always left out in the cold, wondering why he is always losing the girl to a guy who he thinks is a complete jerk. The woman is always wondering why guys are complete jerks and yet finds the good guys completely boring. What is the resolution to this major problem of the sexes?

Women, find ways in which you can make the boring good guy come out of his shell. Good guys can become some of the best lovers. Men, if you are the good guy... loosen up. She's going to like you more if you are just yourself, even if you think being yourself means being boring. She may be into boring, and you will never know until you go out on that limb.

Now, what's the psychology of wanting a "bad boy"? Doctors of all types have said that a woman's attraction to the bad guy is a "daddy issue" being redirected in the form of her seeking what she went through in her youth, with men being the dominating jerks of her childhood, it's a never-ending cycle. I disagree.

In my opinion, a woman seeking a bad boy is just that. It's a woman seeking some sense of adventure in her life. Just because a guy is labeled a "bad boy" doesn't necessarily mean he has to be a jerk. Find the middle road. The perfect guy is a little bad, but loving nonetheless. The perfect guy will have an adventurous side, will be able to knock your socks off in bed and out. This guy, may not be able to expose all his feelings openly, but when they are there you will know it.